When I was 23 a person said to me: “You don’t work very well in groups, do you?”
Not being conversant with the ‘Fogging’ technique (“Possibly not.”) I asked him what he meant. Since then I have always wished I hadn’t. Unfortunately I let him hurt me quite a lot.
I have just been at a party with 20+ other people. I was a bit nervous before going (“Careful. Don’t talk too much about yourself.” / “Don’t worry about it. Just enjoy yourself.” / “…”).
I felt uncomfortable in the party and I analysed it afterwards …. or rather I analysed myself. It really is terrible what damage a casual judgement can do to someone vulnerable.